Questions for couples: memories, money and the future

These questions show whether you're on the same page: where you first met, how you split the bills, where you see yourselves in ten years.

Who it's for: For couples who are moving in, getting engaged, or just want to check they want the same things.

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How to play

  1. One of you taps Start a room and sends the 5-letter code. The other opens the link on their own phone.
  2. A question appears on both screens. If it's about one of you, that person answers honestly and the other guesses.
  3. Neither of you can see the other's answer. When you've both locked in, the screens count down together and flip.
  4. Matching answers score a point, close ones score half. After ten questions you get a match score you can save as an image.

The questions (40)

  1. Where did we first meet?
  2. Where was our first date?
  3. What did we eat on our first date?
  4. Who made the first move?
  5. What was our first trip together?
  6. What's our song?
  7. What was the first movie we saw together?
  8. What was our first argument about?
  9. What's the farthest we've traveled together?
  10. Where did we take our first photo together?
  11. How did we meet?Friends / Work or school / Dating app / Other
  12. What season was our first date?Spring / Summer / Fall / Winter
  13. What was our first concert or show together?
  14. What was the first meal we cooked together?
  15. Where did we spend our first holiday together?
  16. What's the best meal we've ever had together?
  17. Where was our favorite photo of us taken?
  18. What was our biggest travel mishap?
  19. How long was our longest phone call?1 hour / 2 hours / 3 hours / All night
  20. What was the first thing we bought together?
  21. Where did we get lost together?
  22. What's our most-repeated inside joke?
  23. What day of the week was our first date?Mon–Thu / Friday / Saturday / Sunday
  24. What was your partner's first impression of their partner, in one word?
  25. What made your partner fall for their partner, in one word?
  26. What color was your partner wearing on our first date?Black / White / Blue / Something bright
  27. How nervous was your partner on the first date?Not at all / A little / Very / Extremely
  28. What was your partner's first gift to their partner?
  29. What's the best gift your partner has received from their partner?
  30. What's your partner's favorite date so far?
  31. What's your partner's favorite trip we've taken?
  32. What did your partner do to get ready for the first date?
  33. What's your partner's most embarrassing moment in front of their partner?
  34. How many photos of us does your partner have?Under 100 / Hundreds / Thousands / Too many to count
  35. What name did your partner first save their partner under in their phone?
  36. Which restaurant from our dates would your partner go back to first?
  37. Which day in our relationship does your partner remember most?
  38. How nervous was your partner meeting their partner's family?Not at all / A little / Very / Terrified
  39. What does your partner remember most about our first date?
  40. How much cash does your partner usually carry?None / Under $20 / $20–50 / Over $50

Pick a 10-question round built from these topics.

Tips for a better round

  • Answer the money questions separately first. Comparing afterwards is easier than discussing it cold.
  • If an answer surprises you, ask why before moving on.
  • Use 'Living together' or 'Thinking about marriage' for a round built from these topics.
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FAQ

What questions should couples ask before moving in or getting married?
Talk about money habits, family expectations, where you want to live and what a normal week looks like. Answering separately first shows where you really agree.