Deep questions for couples

Some questions need more than one word. For these, each of you writes a few lines. When you flip, the person the question is about decides whether the other got it right.

Who it's for: For couples who want a slower, more honest conversation, like on an anniversary or a quiet evening at home.

Start a room

How to play

  1. One of you taps Start a room and sends the 5-letter code. The other opens the link on their own phone.
  2. A question appears on both screens. If it's about one of you, that person answers honestly and the other guesses.
  3. Neither of you can see the other's answer. When you've both locked in, the screens count down together and flip.
  4. Matching answers score a point, close ones score half. After ten questions you get a match score you can save as an image.

The questions (30)

  1. What does your partner value most in life?Family / Health / Freedom / Security
  2. Who does your partner admire most?
  3. What's your partner's biggest fear?Spiders / Heights / The dark / Public speaking
  4. What's your partner's proudest achievement?
  5. What makes your partner happiest?
  6. How would your partner describe themselves in one word?
  7. What does your partner think is their best quality?
  8. What habit does your partner want to break?
  9. What's the best compliment your partner has ever gotten?
  10. If your partner could relive one age, what would it be?Childhood / Teens / Twenties / Right now
  11. Would your partner rather visit the past or the future?Past / Future / Neither
  12. What would be your partner's last meal?Pizza / Steak / Sushi / A home-cooked meal
  13. What movie made your partner cry the hardest?
  14. What's your partner's love language?
  15. What does your partner need most when they're upset?To talk / Space / A hug / Advice
  16. How much alone time does your partner need?Every day / A few hours a week / Rarely
  17. Is your partner an introvert or an extrovert?Introvert / Extrovert / Somewhere in between
  18. What's the biggest decision your partner has ever made?
  19. Where does your partner feel most at peace?Home / Outdoors / By the water / In the car
  20. What's your partner's life motto?
  21. What's one thing your partner would never compromise on?
  22. What's your partner's favorite childhood memory?
  23. What song would be your partner's theme song?
  24. Who is your partner most grateful for right now?
  25. How old was your partner when they stopped believing in Santa?
  26. What would your partner do with one totally free day?
  27. Is your partner a planner or a go-with-the-flow type?Planner / Go with the flow / Depends
  28. Describe us in one word.
  29. What do we have most in common?
  30. What's our biggest difference?

Play the 'Tell me more' round for five of these, or mix them in with lighter questions.

Tips for a better round

  • Ask about specific moments rather than big ideas; they lead to real stories.
  • Five deep questions is plenty for one evening. Leave room to talk after each one.
  • There is no wrong answer here. 'Close' is a good result.
Start a room

FAQ

What are good deep questions to ask your partner?
Ones that ask about a specific moment or feeling, like the moment they remember most or a time they felt sad and you didn't notice.
How do you score open answers?
The person the question is about decides: spot on, close, or not quite.